Wednesday, January 11, 2012

On Relationships In The Age Of Social Media

Dear Diary:

I have been trying to figure out a way to write about this particular topic, but it hasn't been until recently that I have been in a situation where it would relevant to me. And just so you know, right now I am just typing shit because I am suffering from a major brain fart and completely lost my train of thought, so give me a minute. Just writing something random helps me get back on track as opposed to just staring at a screen with drool coming out of my mouth.

Anyway, in my previous entry I mentioned that I am seeing someone, and well, yes, it's true. I have been seeing this particular woman for a little while now. So things in this particular area of my life are moving in a positive, forward direction.

But it got me to thinking. With the explosion of social media, when should a couple become official on the interwebs? Or is it even necessary that it happen? Or should it even happen at all?

Now, there is a general danger with social media that I find oftentimes goes unnoticed, and that is feeling of validation and false sense of self-worth that it can provide from strangers.

Another thing that I find absolutely repulsive is when a couple are all mushy on social networks. I mean please, get a room, send an email, private message, whatever you want to call it, and leave the rest of us out of it. I do not want to read your fucking baby talk, and neither does anyone else. It isn't cute. It makes you look retarded. I tend to think people who do this are seeking validation, and/or bragging to try to make themselves feel better. But they only look pathetic in my opinion.

So, when a couple start becoming exclusive, is there some unwritten rule that there is a certain amount of time in which they must follow/friend each other? Then do they just come right out and announce they are in a relationship with a particular person? Or is there a slow easing into it? Is there a timeline? Has someone written a manual? Where is "Relationship Protocol on Social Networks for Dummies" when you need it?

Or is it even necessary that it be announced to the world that you are in a relationship with a particular someone? I guess whether or not it is necessary is dependent on talking it over with your significant other. I have a feeling no one wants to prematurely jump the gun on that one, because well, that could be a bit awkward. I also have a feeling that if one person wants to do it, the other person will follow/allow/compromise/insert whichever verb you want here.

But should it happen at all? Now, this is just my opinion, but if you are announcing it to the world because you want the world to know, then that smacks as seeking validation, so no, I don't think you should. But, if you are announcing it to the world because you are proud of the fact you are with someone whom you think is special, then by all means, be proud of it.

Just keep the pillow talk on the pillow.

Thursday, January 5, 2012


Dear Diary:

Usually, right around this time I would write two entries that would A) look back on the year, and B) look back on the year to come. This year though, I am not going to do that.

I don't know if the lack of motivation has more to do with the fact that I do not want to some how, at the end of the year, feel like a failure, or whether or not something else has changed where I feel like I no longer need the motivation to take a very long view.

I only made two resolutions this year, and one has been one that has not changed each year: get my fat ass in shape. But now I no longer feel the need to write about it. Rather than rush in like so many people do after the New Year and head to the gym and work out hard for a week and get burnt out, I am taking baby steps. First, what I put into my body is more important than any amount of exercise, so now I am in the process of overhauling my nutrition. When that is done, I will hit the gym.

I am doing it this way because honestly, working out has never been an issue for me. When I am at the gym, I am as methodical as a surgeon. However, I have never been methodical when it comes to what I eat. I will go five days of eating clean, and then over the weekend drink a lot, and eat like 20,000 calories worth of garbage. No amount of exercise can fix that amount of damage over a sustained period of time. Also, the timing of when I eat got completely screwed up over the holidays, so I am working on getting that back under control. Like I said, baby steps.

And I am not doing this for anyone but myself. Not my family, not the girl I am now seeing, not for my professional career, not for anything or anyone but myself.

The second thing I resolved to do was not die. I mean really, if I accomplish this one, everything else is fucking gravy baby.