Saturday, October 24, 2009


Dear Diary:

I was supposed to have a date tonight with Girl 6, but she is sick, and had to cancel. So since I have nothing to do tonight, I figured I would write a bit, because well, I need to.

Today started off like any other day, well, any other weekend day recently, as I started working on the house around 10am. I got in a solid five hours of painting, and the place is really shaping up. Around the time I started is when I got the text that tonight had to be called off, which was fine. I really like this particular girl, and if she was sick, she is sick, and there really isn't much I can do about that.

So anyway, back to painting I went. My buddy was going to come help me, but his hip was bothering him, so it was just me and my paint brush, and some really fucking expensive paint. The stuff I am using is about $55 a gallon. Now, you might think I am crazy for using such expensive stuff, but it is self priming, so it is saving me time because I only need two coats, rather than three to four if I had to buy paint and primer separate. So, I got the kitchen finished, and a bedroom finished. The only thing I need to do in the kitchen in the immediate future is paint the trim above where the cabinets are going to go, and once that is done, I can stop painting for a while.

Anyway, I got home, scrubbed the paint off my skin until it was red and raw, and thought I would log on to (nope, not saying it, because they don't fucking pay me) one of the more popular social networking sites on the web, and see what everyone was up to. Then, I got a wild idea of adding Girl 6 as a friend, and added her.

When I added her, I apparently could see her profile, even though she hasn't confirmed me yet. I saw that she wrote that she wished she could find a normal guy, written today.

My heart sort of sank when I saw that, and completely ruined my mood for the day. But, such is life I guess.....

Friday, October 16, 2009


Dear Diary:

Admit it, you missed me. You cannot deny it. You have been wondering what I have been up to. You have been wondering if I am completely gone from this little exercise. You have been wondering if I died in some horrific car crash. You have been wondering what the hell has been keeping me so damn busy that I couldn't speak to you.

Well, stop wondering. Because I have never left, I have just been swamped.

You know, life has a funny way of just, well, happening. When it does happen, you are not always prepared for it. Hell, sometimes you think you are prepared for it, and then when it actually happens, you realize that you weren't even close to being prepared. But it's life, so you roll with the punches, take your hits, deliver some blows, and move on the best you can.

I had quite a bit of a shock the last couple of weeks to tell you the truth. The house I am working on is technically not mine, it is my dad's. It's his little project really, and I am just managing it. However, that being said, he wants me to buy it from him, and if the price is right, not only will I have a mortgage again, but he will eliminate the roughly $20,000 that I owe him as a result of him bailing me out financially from my divorce, and he will give me a refund of possibly $25,000 at closing.

Yes, you heard me correctly. What I said is what he told me. Even if he doesn't kick me back any money, I will own a house (which is pretty fucking nice at the moment, you should see the floors!), and be out of debt to him. When it actually hit me that my financial nightmare could be over by February, I literally cried.

You know, I really do think that with the entire process of divorce, the actual emotional damage and the legal process itself is the easy part to deal with. The aftermath, particularly the financial aftermath, can linger for quite some time. Once the emotional hurdle is cleared, you literally have to reset everything. Your living and spending habits, your debt management, your cash flow, all of it needs to be reevaluated and reset to work within your new reality. Once that sets in, and if you are like me, see nothing but an endless string of interest payments, it can bring you down a bit.

I mean, consider this. In April of 2008, I was completely debt free. My student loans were paid off. I had no credit card bills. Life was financially manageable, and I even had money in savings. And now, I still seem to be struggling. My credit card payment is at least $300 a month, and I don't charge anything anymore, and I still have about $20,000 that I need to pay my dad. I went from zero to roughly $30,000 in the hole in roughly six months, and my savings was completely eviscerated. Basically, I was where I was when I graduated college. I had my whole financial life set back a decade.

And now, in a matter of months, it could all be over. I could be completely back on my feet.

I love you dad. Thanks for sticking by me, even when I am a pain in the ass (which is very often I might add).

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Happy Friday!!!

Dear Diary:

Happy Fuckin' Friday!!!

Well, technically it is not Friday yet, but, it is for me. I have a ton of vacation days that I need to take off, so I have consecutive four-day weekends ahead of me. I know Diary, you hate me right now.

But it isn't all fun and games. Tomorrow morning I get to wake up at the ass crack of dawn to go get my oil changed so that I am at the project house in time for the delivery of the hardwood floors and all the tile for the master bathroom. Then, I get to wait around for a little bit for an electrician, because the electrician that was working on the house apparently doesn't like cashing my checks and doesn't want to work (and we wonder what is wrong with the work ethic of many people around our country!).

The thing about finding an electrician is that all the work that needs to be done is now waiting on electrical work. If it takes longer to get this done, then the whole project is pushed back. Until the electrical is done, the walls cannot be put up. The floors have to be put up before the flooring is installed. Can you see the domino effect? So, in other words, I MUST get a damn electrician.

I am hoping to get most of my work done around 2:30. After that, I have a date with Girl 5 Friday night, which I am looking forward to. This is our third date actually, and I know I didn't write an update about the second date, but, then again, I have been a bit busy, so I will provide updates when I can.

The rest of the weekend I have more meetings with electricians, and also a date with Girl 6 sometime in the evening. Sunday and Monday are relaxation days.

Yes, I have a tough life I know.

On another note, I haven't been able to work out this week because somehow I royally screwed up my back. I woke up one day and my back was in serious pain. It's a bit odd actually, as it only hurts when I am sitting, but when I am standing, it is fine. However, I don't want to rick it and place undue stress on it, so I am taking it easy and just watching what I eat, and drink, which means no beer for me.

So obviously I am hoping my back feels better.